“O people! Gabriel came to me from the threshold of God and said: Virgin girls are like the fruits on a tree. When they ripen, they should be plucked. Else, they will be spoiled due to exposure to the rays of the sun, and they will be scattered about due to the blowing of the wind. When girls mature and feel sexual inclinations, there is no remedy for them but a husband. If they do not get married, they are not secure from corruption since they are human (and are not immune from making mistakes).”
Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him And His Progeny)
The marriage and establishment of family is the best way to prevent adultery and the corruption of the society. The husband and wife build a home upon love, comfort and delight in which the couple shall live together their whole life, and raise boys and girls to continue the human society. This structure is only firm if both of husband and wife know about the mutual rights. Here we are going to write about the rights of wife.
Imam Sajjad (the fourth Imam of Muslims) said:
“And the right of your wife is that you should know that God has made her a repose, a comfort and a companion, and a protector for you. It is incumbent upon each of you to thank God for the other and realize that the other one is God’s blessing for you. It is obligatory to be a good companion for God’s blessing, and to honor her and treat her gently… She should enjoy the rights of mercy and intimacy, as she is an object of tranquility. You should care for her through consummation of the lust that must be consummated. And that is surely great. And there is no power but in God.(The Treatise on Rights, right n.20)
It is said that we should protect our private parts from everything that is unlawful for us like adultery. But how is it possible? Because Sexual instinct is a very strong instinct that attract men and women towards each other and … . So, what is the solution? The sacred religion of Islam presents some practical solution. Imam Sajjad (the fourth Imam of Muslims) says:“[for protection of your private part from unlawful things] help it by lowering your eyes – this is certainly the best way to help it.”(The Treatise on Rights, Right n.9) The eyes must be closed to what is forbidden by God because some looks in fact are poisonous dart from Satan. Imam Sadiq (the sixth Imam of Muslims) has said:“A [dirty] look is a poisonous dart from the darts of Satan. How many a look has caused long-lasting regret.”(Al-Kafi, v.5, p.559) A dirty look will tear down the veils of modesty and chastity and the probability of committing adultery increases extremely. Blessed is the person who protects his/her looks.
And for protection private part“you should also remember death often, and threaten yourself with God and try to make yourself fear God. Preservation from sin and receiving help in so doing are possible by God’s help. There is no strength or power but in Him.”(Right n.9)
The remembrance of death causes to stay away from forbidden pleasures. Imam Sadiq (the sixth Imam of Muslims) said:“The remembrance of death kills desires.”(Majmu’ah Waram, p.268)
At the end it is nice to mention that besides not view forbidden scenes and the remembrance of death, the only correct way to fulfillment sexual instinct is the marriage.
Among human instincts sexual instinct is a major force attract men and women towards each other. In history sex and marriage have always been a hot topic of discussion in all religious or scientific gatherings. Some theories related to this issue, are extremist while others are normal. The followers of extremist theory believe in sexual freedom. In other hand some theories have considered sex to be an animal act and have called it filthy. We see great scholars that are the follower of this theory who never married and advised all men and women not to marry.
The sacred religion of Islam takes the balanced view and condemns both extremist views. In this view, sexual instincts are neither let loose, nor are they totally abandoned.
According Islamic teaching God has encouraged the people to get married. On the other hand, any form of sexual deviation or being loose is seriously fought with.
Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him and His Progeny) has said:“O young people! Any of you who have the means to marry should do so since this is the best way to protect your eyes from corrupt and treacherous looks, and to guard the private parts from sin and immodesty. Whoever does not have the means to marry should fast continually since fasting can reduce lust.”(Makarim al-Akhlaq, p.196)