The big problem today is the lack of balance in instincts. Some people in the name of freedom do anything they want. They look at each scene like porno scene and they drink anything like Intoxicating drinks and they do everything like adultery. Have you ever think about very bad consequences of adultery? We just name a few examples. Social disorder is the first big problem of adultery because the relationship of the father and children will become unclear. Increasing in adultery around the world is terrible even to imagine, because in such a world the father-child relationship will be eliminated and there is also no love for these children because of the unclear relationship between child and parents. In addition, adultery leads to many contagious sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) many of which are life-threatening. The disease called AIDS is just one example.
Due to these very bad consequences, the sacred religion of Islam has prohibited adultery. Prophet Muhammad said:There are six bad effects of adultery. Three of them are in this world and the other three are in the Hereafter.
The effects of adultery in this world are as follows:
Adultery takes away one’s sincerity and divine illumination.
Adultery stops the arrival of one’s share of daily bread.
Adultery speeds up man’s destruction.
The three effects of adultery in the Hereafter are as follows:
Adultery will raise the anger of the Lord.
Adultery will make the Reckoning difficult.
Adultery will result in entry (or remaining forever) in the Fire of Hell.”
It is said that we should protect our private parts from everything that is unlawful for us like adultery. But how is it possible? Because Sexual instinct is a very strong instinct that attract men and women towards each other and … . So, what is the solution? The sacred religion of Islam presents some practical solution. Imam Sajjad (the fourth Imam of Muslims) says:“[for protection of your private part from unlawful things] help it by lowering your eyes – this is certainly the best way to help it.”(The Treatise on Rights, Right n.9) The eyes must be closed to what is forbidden by God because some looks in fact are poisonous dart from Satan. Imam Sadiq (the sixth Imam of Muslims) has said:“A [dirty] look is a poisonous dart from the darts of Satan. How many a look has caused long-lasting regret.”(Al-Kafi, v.5, p.559) A dirty look will tear down the veils of modesty and chastity and the probability of committing adultery increases extremely. Blessed is the person who protects his/her looks.
And for protection private part“you should also remember death often, and threaten yourself with God and try to make yourself fear God. Preservation from sin and receiving help in so doing are possible by God’s help. There is no strength or power but in Him.”(Right n.9)
The remembrance of death causes to stay away from forbidden pleasures. Imam Sadiq (the sixth Imam of Muslims) said:“The remembrance of death kills desires.”(Majmu’ah Waram, p.268)
At the end it is nice to mention that besides not view forbidden scenes and the remembrance of death, the only correct way to fulfillment sexual instinct is the marriage.
Since the sexual instinct is the most difficult to control, one should choose the best way to fulfillment this natural instinct. Taking a moderate stance is liked by Islam and is according to the nature of our creation. Islam does not allow its followers neither exceeding the bounds nor falling short. As an example for opposition of Islam to the theory that has totally abandoned sex, read this story: A few of the companions of the Noble Prophet of God, decided to avoid having sexual intercourse with their wives, eating breakfast and sleeping at night. Um Salmah (the wife of Prophet) told this to the Prophet. The Prophet Muhammad went to them and asked:“Do you abstain from (going to) your wives? I go to my wives, eat in the daytime and sleep at night. Whoever forsakes my tradition is not from me.”(Wasa’il al-Shi’ah, v.14, p.8) As you see Islam strongly opposes to those who have considered sex to be an animal act and have called it filthy.
On the other hand, Islam is strongly opposes those who commit adultery. The Holy Qur’an says:“Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils).”(17:32) The important point in this verse is that the verse says do not even approach adultery let alone committing. It shows that there are some other deeds that might ultimately lead to adultery. Acts like flirting, looking, nudity, reading sexy books, viewing pornography, and going to centers of corruption or being in a private place with another person of the opposite sex are all preparatory actions which might lead to adultery.
We should remember that making love with our legal wives is the moderate stance regarding sexual instincts.