Let me ask a question explicitly. My word is with the believers. Have you ever thought that who is your real God? Do not be surprised. I explain. True believers are those who have the greatest respect and love for the Lord.“But those who believe love God more (than anything else).”(The Holy Quran, 2:165) Now back to the question. What exactly do we worship? God is the most popular thing in our lives?
Some people like their passions more than anything. They prefer their own lust even to the Commandments of God.“Have you seen him who takes his own lust (vain desires) as his God”(The Holy Quran, 45:23) Some have chosen wealth and property as God. Their love is money and they sacrifice everything for money.
For another group sexual instinct is the most popular matter. They do not care for what is lawful and what is forbidden. In fact, they worship sex and private parts!
Also power and ambition can be named as additional examples.
In fact, such people associate other things with God, whilethe greatest right of God … is that worshiping Him without associating anything with Him.(Imam Sajjad, the treatise on rights, right n.1)
Let us ask God to help us and grant us success in worshiping Him sincerely.
It is said that we should protect our private parts from everything that is unlawful for us like adultery. But how is it possible? Because Sexual instinct is a very strong instinct that attract men and women towards each other and … . So, what is the solution? The sacred religion of Islam presents some practical solution. Imam Sajjad (the fourth Imam of Muslims) says:“[for protection of your private part from unlawful things] help it by lowering your eyes – this is certainly the best way to help it.”(The Treatise on Rights, Right n.9) The eyes must be closed to what is forbidden by God because some looks in fact are poisonous dart from Satan. Imam Sadiq (the sixth Imam of Muslims) has said:“A [dirty] look is a poisonous dart from the darts of Satan. How many a look has caused long-lasting regret.”(Al-Kafi, v.5, p.559) A dirty look will tear down the veils of modesty and chastity and the probability of committing adultery increases extremely. Blessed is the person who protects his/her looks.
And for protection private part“you should also remember death often, and threaten yourself with God and try to make yourself fear God. Preservation from sin and receiving help in so doing are possible by God’s help. There is no strength or power but in Him.”(Right n.9)
The remembrance of death causes to stay away from forbidden pleasures. Imam Sadiq (the sixth Imam of Muslims) said:“The remembrance of death kills desires.”(Majmu’ah Waram, p.268)
At the end it is nice to mention that besides not view forbidden scenes and the remembrance of death, the only correct way to fulfillment sexual instinct is the marriage.
The human eye is like other tools. It means if we use it correctly the result will be good and vice versa. We are not allowed to use our eyes as we wish, as we are not allowed to use a knife to injure or kill others. Hence, prohibited items must be known to avoid committing them. For example it is forbidden to look at unfamiliar (Na-Mahram) women. It does not mean that we should close our eyes completely since then we cannot walk or we might fall down on the ground, but it means we can reduce the amount that we see by limiting our view. Imam Sadiq (the sixth Imam of Muslims) said:“One look after another will sow the seeds of desire in the heart, and it is sufficient temptation for the person.”(Wasa’il al-Shi’ah, v.14, p.139)
A dirty look will also tear down the veils of modesty and chastity. There are many people whose life is ruined due to a dirty look. Only for instance it can be said that dirty look of a married man at unfamiliar (Na-Mahram) woman or girl will sow the seeds of desire in his heart and he will be in love with her gradually and it can ruin the family. And it is also forbidden for women because the same reason.
We should remember that dirty look, is a major reason for the spread of adultery.