There is a common misconception among some persons that the woman is forced to do housework, while from the viewpoint of Islamic jurisprudence, a man does not have the right to force his wife to work. According to Islam the woman is her husband’s life-partner not his slave or housemaid.
Of course most women love to work at home because they love their husband, children and their lives. But this should not lead to abuse by men. Islamic Immaculate Leaders have encouraged men to help their wives.
Prophet Muhammad told Imam Ali (the first Imam of Muslims): “Listen to me. I will not tell you anything but what my Lord commands. God will establish the reward of as many years of fasting in the daytime and staying up at night to pray, as there are hairs on one’s body for helping his wife with the housework. The reward will be similar to what He has granted to the patient ones and the Prophet David, Jacob and Jesus.” (Jami’ al-Sa’adat, v.2, p.142)
Islam says that men should be kind to their wives, not bother or hurt them; not be strict with them, but help them. The Holy Prophet said: “On the Resurrection Day I am the enemy of any man who unduly beats his wife. Do not beat your wives. Thus whoever unduly beats his wife has surely disobeyed God and His Prophet.” (Irshad al-Qulub, v.1, p.175)
There is no doubt that the blessed foundation of family will be firm only with love and mercy and this structure will be shaken up by the erupting quakes of disharmony and bad temper.
It is obvious that everyone is seeking a peaceful life. Nobody wants to be far from relaxing.
Having a good wife is one way to achieve peace. Holy Quran says: “It is He Who created you from a single person, and made his mate in order that he might dwell with her (in love).” (1)
It is a God-given blessing for a man to have an angel as his wife in his house, the angel who is so fond of him and made a promise to stay whole of the life. In fact, God has made your wife a comfort, a companion and a protector for you. So for such a great gift, you must respect the rights of the wife. “She should enjoy the rights of mercy and intimacy, as she is an object of tranquility.” (2)
Imam Baqir (the fifth Imam of Muslims) quoted on the authority of Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him And His Progeny): “Gabriel advised me about women so much that I thought she could not be divorced unless she clearly commits adultery.” (3)
The status of woman in Islam is very high and therefor, Islam orders to be gentle to woman.
1-The Holy Quran (7:189)
2- Imam Sajjad, the Treatise on Rights, right n.20
3- Wasa’il al-Shi’ah, v.14, p.122
The human eye is like other tools. It means if we use it correctly the result will be good and vice versa. We are not allowed to use our eyes as we wish, as we are not allowed to use a knife to injure or kill others. Hence, prohibited items must be known to avoid committing them. For example it is forbidden to look at unfamiliar (Na-Mahram) women. It does not mean that we should close our eyes completely since then we cannot walk or we might fall down on the ground, but it means we can reduce the amount that we see by limiting our view. Imam Sadiq (the sixth Imam of Muslims) said: “One look after another will sow the seeds of desire in the heart, and it is sufficient temptation for the person.” (Wasa’il al-Shi’ah, v.14, p.139)
A dirty look will also tear down the veils of modesty and chastity. There are many people whose life is ruined due to a dirty look. Only for instance it can be said that dirty look of a married man at unfamiliar (Na-Mahram) woman or girl will sow the seeds of desire in his heart and he will be in love with her gradually and it can ruin the family. And it is also forbidden for women because the same reason.
We should remember that dirty look, is a major reason for the spread of adultery.