One of the most important benefits of a good friend is his/her helping during the life. As you know the world is full of hurdles and hardships and it is absolutely necessary for every individual to have a good friend. But what kind of friends helps us in times of need? I think it depends on his/her characteristics because some people do not like to help others inherently. For this reason, Imam Sajjad (the fourth Imam of Muslims) told his son: “Do not make a stingy person your friend who may not help you in times of need.”(Usul al-Kafi, v 72, p. 376)
Stinginess is the opposite of generosity and the sacred religion of Islam has warned His people strongly against it. A stingy person refrains from spending something which is needed for others even his/her friends. Such a person due to the excessive love for money and property refrains giving freely to someone else. So, a stingy person cannot be a good friend because he/she deprives his friends of his fortune and does not regard them.
By choosing such persons as friend we will not reach our goal because as Imam Sajjad (a.s) said, a stingy person will leave us alone he/she will not help in times of need.
Some people think that it is better to keep their family in a difficult situation. They have enough money but they are stingy with their wife and children. Regardless of their motivation, I’m going to check whether it is good or not. So it is the main question: Is it good to provide abundant provision for our family?
The sacred religion of Islam’s view on this matter is clear. Islam encourages us to try to put our family in comfort.
Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him And His Progeny) has said: “Serving the family is considered to be expiation for major sins. It will quench the Lord’s wrath, and be considered as the nuptial gift for the ‘Houris’ [women in heaven]. It will be a cause of raised ranks, and increased, recorded good-deeds.” (Jami’ al-Sa’adat, v.2, p.142)
Surely, this reward will encourage believing men to serving their wives, and abstain from being stingy and bossy.
God’s Prophet also said: “Whoever is affluent but is stingy with his wife does not belong to our nation.” (Mustadrak al-Wasa’il, v.2, p.643)
It is nice to say that in Islam there is a mutual relationship between providing most amply for the family and being pleasing one near God. Imam Sajjad (the fourth Imam of Muslims) said: “Whoever provides most amply for his family will be the most pleasing one near God.” (Mustadrak al-Wasa’il, v.2, p.643)
All couples should know that they should be kind with each other, so that God grants them the great promised rewards.