There is No Use in Being Harsh with Your Wife

Apart from the prophets and saints of God, anyone can make mistakes. The same thing may happen in a family environment. There is no doubt that there are problems in every house. Incompatibilities may cause quarrels that might place a gap between wife and husband, and may drive them more apart from each other. If not prevented, this might lead to separation and divorce. Specially inexperienced couple who still follow their lust may get angry quickly, and attempt to take revenge on each other.


In order to prevent this, Islam has advised husbands and wives to forgive each other, and ignore one another’s faults. Islam says whenever your wife makes a mistake out of ignorance, you should forgive her. The best advice that we have received regarding women are the words of Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him And His Progeny):

“God will save whoever bears his wife – even if it is just one (bad) word – from the Fire. God will assure him of Heaven and record two thousand good deeds for him. God will wipe out two hundred thousand of his wrong-doings and raise his rank two hundred thousand levels, and establish as many years of worshipping for him as there are hairs on his body.” (Makarim al-Akhlaq, p.216)

Remember that your wife is your life-partner. She is neither your slave, nor your housemaid. So be gentle with her. And also remember that there is no use in being harsh with your wife.

Eat and Drink But Waste Not By Excess

It is obvious that everyone wants to be healthy but many people do not know how to avoid the disease. Scientists have done extensive research and have concluded that the roots of many diseases lie in excess food not being absorbed and remaining in the body. So, the best way is to avoid too much food. The Almighty God said in the Qur’an: “O Children of Adam! Wear your beautiful apparel at every time and place of prayer: eat and drink: but waste not by excess, for God does not love the wasters.” (7:31)


Once a Christian doctor told his Muslim assistants: “I can see no traces of medical advice in your heavenly Book while the most useful knowledge is that of religion and the body.” The Muslim scholar replied: “God the Almighty has summarized all of medicine into one-half of a verse and has said: “eat and drink: but waste not by excess.” (Ibid) The Muslim continued and said: “The Prophet Muhammad has also given the following medical advice: “The stomach is the home for all illnesses. Abstinence is the best drug, and give your body what you have made it accustomed to.” The Christian doctor said: “Your Book and your Prophet have left nothing for Jalinus in medicine.(Majma’ul Bayan)


I will end this post with another hadith of the Prophet: “Whoever adheres to hygienic principles regarding eating, and chews his food well, stops eating while he is still not full and does not put off going to the toilet when needed, will not suffer from any illnesses until death.” (Makarim al-Akhlaq, p.146)

Watch the Foods You Eat

The human need for food is undeniable but is he/she allowed to eat whatever wants? The answer is no. For instance sometimes you have a food that is not yours. I mean that is owned by another person and you do not have permission from his/her to eat. In Islam, this is known as the Ḥarām (forbidden) food and Islam has placed a special emphasis on avoiding it. You can read very bad consequences of eating forbidden meals in following tradition. The Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him and His Progeny) has said: “When a morsel of what is forbidden enters the stomach of a person, every angel in the heavens and on the earth curses him. As long as the morsel is in his body, God will not look upon him. Whoever eats a morsel of what is forbidden has earned God’s wrath. If he repents, God will turn to him in forgiveness, and if he dies (without repentance) then he is more deserving of the Fire.” (Makarim al-Akhlaq, p.150)


Eating forbidden meals even can affect a person’s prayer. In another tradition has said: “The prayers of one who eats a morsel of what is forbidden will not be accepted for forty nights and his calls and supplications will not be answered for forty days. Flesh grown from forbidden food deserves to be burnt in the Fire.” (Safinah al-Bihar, v.1, p.24)

Against Ḥarām, there is Ḥalāl (permissible) food that has very good consequences. The Prophet said: “God will illuminate the heart of one who eats what is lawful for forty days, and will make wisdom flow from his heart to his tongue.” (Mahajjah al-Bayda, v.3, p.204)

So, watch the foods you eat.