Treat With Kindness! Because You Are Worthy of It

Doing good in response to those who do some good to us is inherent in man. And it is not difficult. Because they have been good to us before and our good deeds, in fact is a response of their favor.

The main point is this how should we treat those who have not been good to us? Should we reciprocate? Apart from some special cases, for example when doing good can be abused by others, Islam recommends to kind treatment. The Holy Quran says: “Let them forgive and overlook, do you not wish that God should forgive you?” (24:22) and as you, forgiving others is one of the grate examples of good deeds.

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But why we should treat kindly with those who have not been good to us? First of all because your action reflect your conscience, if you do good it shows your good conscience and vice versa. “Everyone acts according to his manner.” (The holy Quran, 17:84)
in a very interesting tradition, Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him and His Progeny) has said: “Treat with kindness those who are worthy of it and those who are not worthy of it.  For if you treat with kindness the one who is worthy of it, then he is worthy of it. And if you treat with kindness one who is not worthy of it, then you yourself are worthy of it.” (Usul al-Kafi, v.4, p.27)

Yes dears! You are worthy of kind treatment. So, do it.

Do Good As God Has Been Good To You

Why should we do good to others? This is a common question among some people. This group of people looks for a reason to favor others. When someone asks them to help those in need or when they face with the poor they do not accept to help. They think that blessings like healthy or wealth belong only to them and if poor and sick people deserve them they were given. But the reality is something else. According Islamic teachings, this world is a test for us and the test instruments are blessings such as wealth and health. Those who do not use these blessings for the welfare of others in the Hereafter will be punished.

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Furthermore, when we ask God for many things and expect a lot from Him, then how can we ignore other people’s needs and neglect their requests. The Holy Quran says: “Nor forget thy portion in this world: but do thou good, as God has been good to thee.”(28:77) this verse is a reminder that all blessings come from God, If you are able to see easily and if you can walk or hear easily you must know that all of them are the grace of God. So, enjoy yourself from the blessings and also favor to others.

Repel Evil with Good to Make Intimate Friends

Others act toward us is not out of two states. It is either good or bad. In response to those who do some good to us it is natural that we should do Good too. “Is there any Reward for Good other than Good?” (The Holy Qur’an, 55:60) There is an interesting tradition in explaining this verse.
Imam Sadiq (the sixth Imam of Muslims) said: “There is a verse in God’s Book [The Holy Quran] that is unrestricted.” He was asked: “Which verse?” Imam Sadiq (Peace Be Upon Him) said: “It is the Almighty God’s words: “Is there any Reward for Good other than Good?” (55:60) this holds true for believers, pagans, good-doers and evildoers. You must reward good for good. Whoever is done some good should respond with good. The proper compensation is not to respond with as much good as he did but with more, since if you respond equally he is ahead of you because he initiated the good deed.” (Tafsir Nur al-Thaqalayn, v.5, p.199)

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But what should we do with those who do us some evil? There is an interesting answer in Holy Quran: “Nor can Goodness and Evil be equal. Repel (Evil) with what is better: Then will he between whom and thee was hatred become as it were thy intimate friend!” (The Holy Qur’an, 41:34)

Of course, if someone abuses this behavior he/she does not deserve it. But in general, this will have a great effect. Because everyone who do us some evil, he/she expects evil. And when we treat him/her with kindness this will have a great effect and it will attract them to us.

Meet a Greeting with a More Courteous Greeting

Islam always tries to strengthen the inner tendency of compensate for the good deeds done for people. Valuable educations that come from Islamic teachings teach us that how should we behave with those who treat us kindly. In a very interesting tradition, Imam Sadiq (the sixth Imam of Muslims) has said: “One third of the intellect is to be friendly with the people.” (Usul al-Kafi, v.2, pp.642-643) It proves the lack of one third of intellect in those who do not act this way and do not wish to recompense those who treat them kindly.

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Of course, expressing kindness to each other may be occurred in different forms. For example, greeting each other in any form is one of the basic way for expressing kindness. It includes shaking hands till the high level of respects. In this regard there is a verse in the Holy Quran that teaches us how should behave toward the greeting of others. “When a (courteous) greeting is offered you, meet it with a greeting still more courteous, or (at least) of equal courtesy. God takes careful account of all things.” (4:86)
In Ali ibn Ibrahim’s commentary we read the following tradition quoted on the authority of Imam Baqir (MGB) and Imam Sadiq (MGB): “What is meant by a greeting is verbal expression of greetings and any other practical forms of expressing kindness.” (Tafsir-i-Namunah, v.4, p.42)

It indicates that should not be careless toward good, indeed we should do our best to compensate for the kindness of others.

Is There Any Reward For Good Other Than Good?

Apart from bad men who their wicked traits block this mode of natural behavior in them, it is inherent in man to wish to recompense those who treat him kindly.
Based on this principle of human the sacred religion of Islam, encourage its followers to compensate for the good deeds done for them and always wait for a chance to practically reward those who have somehow done them a favor. The Holy Quran says: “Is there any Reward for Good other than Good?” (55:60)

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Thus, it is an important point to know how to behave with a person who treats us kindly. In this regard, there are valuable words from Imam Sajjad (the fourth Imam of Muslims). He said: “And the right of him who treats you kindly is that you should thank him and acknowledge his kindness; and spread the good word around about him, and sincerely pray for him between you and God the Praised One. Then if you do that, you have thanked him both in private and in public. Then if you are able to practically recompense him, do recompense him. Otherwise, you should be determined to do so later.” (The Treatise on Rights, right n.28)

30 Rights of Brotherhood in Islam (Part two)

I have mentioned 13 rights of for each Muslim incumbent upon his/his believing brother here and now I would like to express others.

14- “He/she must return his/her brother’s favors.”… Holy Quran says: “Is there any reward for good other than good?” (55:60)

15- “He/she must be grateful for his/her brother’s blessings.” In Islam Thanks to the others is highly recommended. Imam Reza (the eighth Imam of Muslims) has said: Whoever does not thank the good people does not thank God. (Bihār al-Anwār, v.44, p.65)

16- “He/she must try to help his/her brother.”

17- “He/she must guard his/her brother’s honor.”

18- “He/she must fulfill his/her brother’s needs.”

19- “He/she must intercede on behalf of his/her brother.”

20- “He/she must say “God bless you” when his/her brother sneezes.” There are some mysteries about sneezing.

21- “He/she must guide his/her brother’s lost ones.”

22- “He/she must respond to his/her brother’s greetings.”

23- “He/she must welcome his/her brother’s words.”

24- He/she must welcome his/her brother’s kindness.”

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25- “He/she must accept hi/hers brother’s swearing.”… If people do not trust each other life will be very difficult.

26- “He/she must like his/her brother’s friends.”… and this is for those who are real brother not superficial brother.

27- “He/she must not treat his/her brother with animosity.”

28- “He/she must help his/her brother whether he/she is an oppressor or an oppressed one. Helping an oppressor means to prevent him from acts of oppression, but helping an oppressed one means helping him/her to get back what is rightfully his/her.”

29- “He/she should not leave his/her brother alone in the face of calamities.”

30- “He/she must like for his brother whatever he/she likes for himself/herself, and dislike for him/her whatever he dislikes for himself/herself.” 

Your brother is Your Back to Whom You Seek Refuge

One of the closest people to every man is his/her brother. Brother is a symbol of love and support.
Two forms of brotherhood can be imagined. One is a blood and genetic relationship that is being born of the same parents.
Another form of brotherhood that is mentioned in Islamic texts comes through common belief. In this form all the Muslims has related together and these intimate relationships has become the source of unity of all the Muslims in the world.
In this regard The Holy Qur’an says: “The Believers are but a single Brotherhood: So make peace and reconciliation between your two (contending) brothers; and fear God, that ye may receive Mercy.” (49:10)

And this verse is considered one of the most important slogans of Islam.

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Of course the position of brotherhood like other important positions follows some issues that need to be considered. In this regard Imam Sajjad (Peace Be Upon Him) said:

“And the right of your brother is that you should know that he is your hand that you extend, and your back to whom you seek refuge, and your power upon whom you rely, and your might with which you compete. Take him not as a weapon with which to disobey God, nor as a means with which to violate God’s rights. And do not neglect to help him against his own self and support him against his enemy, and intervene between him and his devils, and give him good counsel, and associate with him for God’s sake. Then if he obeys his Lord and is responsible towards Him properly it is fine. Else God should be more preferable and more honorable to you than he is.” (The Treatise on Rights, right n.25)